I often find people believe it is rare and unusual that I have chronic migraines. Like it is some strange circumstances, likely something I did or am doing or not doing, that caused this situation to occur that does not occur with other people who gets migraines. Certainly I know this not to be true and I often tell people now that it is more common than they would think. Just because they have never encountered another person does not mean they are not in fact out there. There is a great deal of stigma with chronic migraines and they affect our lives a great deal.
There can be this sort of blame... this implied idea that our lifestyle habits are not perfect enough and that must surely be to blame for our migraines. I think often to myself 'don't throw stones until you have absolutely no bad habits, exercise the perfect amount and eat the more perfect diet known to man' and even then don't bother critiquing someone else and thinking how they live their life caused their illness or is to blame for them not getting better. It is insanely rude. We do believe if we were perfect in all those ways it would help but, hell, it is damned hard to do all those things when you are in chronic pain. The amount of effort we do put in to make changes should not be belittled. There is always the stigma that people do not get how debilitating the migraines can be, especially when they are chronic and we actually force ourselves to function with some and yet cannot with others so people do not get how we can be able to work one day with migraines and not others... or how we can function at all with migraines at all, but they don't get that we must, that we are forced to and there is nothing pleasant about it. And in the end we do seem to disappoint everyone so we do fear that.